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How to Teach Life Skills

Step-by-step guides for teaching daily living skills to children with special needs, with sensory considerations

Brushing Teeth

Sensory Considerations
Use unscented toothpaste; avoid strong mint flavors; use soft bristles
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Let the child explore the toothbrush.
  2. Model brushing on yourself.
  3. Use hand-over-hand support.
  4. Brush in small circles.
  5. Use a visual timer for 30-60 seconds.
Materials Needed:
Soft toothbrush, mild toothpaste, visual timer
Start with very short sessions and build up.
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Putting on Shoes

Sensory Considerations
Avoid tight shoes; choose Velcro for easier success
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Place shoes in front of the child.
  2. Show left vs right with stickers.
  3. Demonstrate sliding foot in.
  4. Let them close Velcro straps.
Materials Needed:
Velcro shoes, left/right stickers
Practice when not rushing to leave the house.

Using the Toilet

Sensory Considerations
Use a padded seat; avoid loud flushes; keep lighting soft
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Create a predictable schedule.
  2. Use visual steps.
  3. Practice sitting fully clothed first.
  4. Gradually introduce real attempts.
  5. Celebrate small wins.
Materials Needed:
Visual schedule, padded seat, step stool
Never force; keep sessions short and positive.

Crossing the Street Safely

Sensory Considerations
Avoid busy intersections at first; reduce noise exposure
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Teach Stop, Look, Listen.
  2. Practice at quiet streets.
  3. Hold hands or use a safety band.
  4. Model checking both ways.
Materials Needed:
Visual cue card, safety band
Repeat the same route to build predictability.

Sharing Toys

Sensory Considerations
Avoid overstimulating environments; use simple toys
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Start with turn-taking games.
  2. Use a visual timer.
  3. Praise waiting.
  4. Keep sessions short.
Materials Needed:
Visual timer, simple toys
Model sharing with another adult first.

Trying New Foods

Sensory Considerations
Avoid strong smells; start with familiar textures
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Let the child touch and smell the food.
  2. Offer tiny bites.
  3. Pair with a preferred food.
  4. Celebrate exploration, not eating.
Materials Needed:
Small plates, preferred foods, napkins
Never pressure; exposure is the goal.

Getting Dressed

Sensory Considerations
Choose soft fabrics; avoid tags; keep lighting calm
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Lay out clothes in order.
  2. Start with easy items.
  3. Use hand-over-hand.
  4. Use a mirror for feedback.
Materials Needed:
Soft clothing, mirror
Use the same routine each morning.

Following a Morning Routine

Sensory Considerations
Use visuals; keep noise low; avoid rushing
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Create a visual schedule.
  2. Practice on weekends.
  3. Use timers for transitions.
  4. Keep steps consistent.
Materials Needed:
Visual schedule, timers
Predictability reduces anxiety.

Taking Turns in Conversation

Sensory Considerations
Avoid noisy rooms; keep conversations short
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Model turn-taking.
  2. Use a talking object.
  3. Practice with predictable topics.
  4. Praise attempts.
Materials Needed:
Talking object (ball, card)
Start with 1-2 exchanges only.

Cleaning Up Toys

Sensory Considerations
Use bins with pictures; avoid overwhelming piles
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Give one instruction at a time.
  2. Use a cleanup song.
  3. Sort toys by category.
  4. Celebrate completion.
Materials Needed:
Bins with labels, music
Keep cleanup to 5 minutes max.

Learning to Ride a Bike

Sensory Considerations
Start in a quiet, flat area; avoid loud traffic; use a parent-controlled push bar for stability
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Let the child explore the bike while stationary.
  2. Adjust the seat so both feet touch the ground.
  3. Attach the push bar and walk behind them.
  4. Practice gliding with feet up for 1-2 seconds.
  5. Gradually reduce support.
  6. Celebrate small wins.
Materials Needed:
Bike, parent-controlled push bar, helmet, knee pads
Short sessions work best; stop before frustration builds.
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Using Tight-Fit Underwear for Body Awareness

Sensory Considerations
Choose soft, tag-free fabrics; ensure the fit is snug but not restrictive
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Show the underwear and let the child touch it.
  2. Explain that it gives the body a hug to feel calm.
  3. Start with short wear times (10-20 minutes).
  4. Increase duration as comfort grows.
  5. Use during transitions or school mornings.
Materials Needed:
Tight-fit underwear, compression shorts, soft fabrics
Great for proprioceptive input; avoid if the child shows discomfort.
Recommended Item
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Helping with Candle Scares

Sensory Considerations
Avoid strong scents; keep lights dim but not dark
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Show an unlit candle first.
  2. Explain what a flame is using simple language.
  3. Light the candle far away.
  4. Use a visual boundary.
  5. Practice blowing it out from a distance.
  6. Move closer gradually.
Materials Needed:
Unscented candle, lighter, visual boundary tape
Start with very short exposures; never surprise the child.

Learning to Draw

Sensory Considerations
Choose videos with simple shapes; avoid fast-paced tutorials
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Pick a short video from Art for Kids Hub.
  2. Preview the first 10-20 seconds.
  3. Set up paper and markers.
  4. Pause after each step.
  5. Celebrate effort.
  6. Display the drawing.
Materials Needed:
Paper, markers or crayons, tablet or laptop
Let the child choose the topic.
Recommended Item
https://www.youtube.com/@artforkidshub

Teaching Helmet Safety for Biking

Sensory Considerations
Choose a lightweight helmet; avoid strong plastic smells
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Let the child explore the helmet.
  2. Model wearing your own.
  3. Practice in front of a mirror.
  4. Adjust straps.
  5. Do short indoor sessions.
  6. Pair with fun activities.
Materials Needed:
Bike helmet, mirror, soft strap pads
Keep sessions short; avoid forcing.
Recommended Item
Kids adjustable bike helmet

Taking Flights Calmly

Sensory Considerations
Avoid loud gate areas; use headphones; keep preferred apps ready
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Prepare the iPad with favorite games and videos.
  2. Show a simple visual schedule.
  3. Arrive early.
  4. Let the child settle before takeoff.
  5. Give the iPad immediately.
  6. Allow unlimited screen time.
  7. Offer snacks and breaks.
Materials Needed:
iPad, headphones, downloaded videos, snacks
Writing a social story beforehand helps set expectations.
Recommended Item
iPad with downloaded videos

Preparing for Vacation with a Social Story

Sensory Considerations
Avoid last-minute surprises; use visuals; keep routines familiar
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Create a social story showing how many days the trip will be.
  2. Add pictures for each day's plan.
  3. Include the return date.
  4. Read the story daily before the trip.
  5. Choose an Airbnb for space and food flexibility.
  6. Review the story each morning.
Materials Needed:
Printed social story, photos, calendar, Airbnb with kitchen
Predictability reduces anxiety.
Recommended Item
Printed or digital social story book

Getting Comfortable Wearing Swim Goggles

Sensory Considerations
Choose soft-seal goggles; avoid tight straps
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Let the child explore the goggles.
  2. Model wearing your own.
  3. Practice in the bathroom.
  4. Have him count to
  5. Celebrate success.
  6. Increase duration gradually.
  7. Practice near water later.
Materials Needed:
Swim goggles, mirror, soft towel
Counting to 100 builds tolerance.
Recommended Item
Kids soft-seal swim goggles

Walking Before School to Regulate Energy

Sensory Considerations
Choose a quiet walking route; avoid busy streets
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Walk the whole way if possible.
  2. If far, park 10 minutes away.
  3. Have him wear his backpack for proprioceptive input.
  4. Keep pace steady.
  5. Use the walk to transition into school mode.
Materials Needed:
Backpack, comfortable shoes, light jacket
A 10-minute walk helps release energy.
Recommended Item
Comfortable well-fitted backpack

Haircut Session with Social Story and Counting System

Sensory Considerations
Avoid loud clippers; keep lighting soft
Step-by-Step Instructions
  1. Create a social story explaining the haircut and number of passes.
  2. Practice at home first.
  3. Use a counter (e.g., 10 passes).
  4. Count each pass out loud.
  5. Keep sessions short.
  6. Give a treat afterward.
  7. Transition to a salon gradually.
Materials Needed:
Towel, mirror, social story, small treats
Social stories and counting reduce anxiety.
Recommended Item
Small chocolate or ice cream treat